Response from Don Wismer, Connexion Church:

I sense the hurt in your words TG and heart goes out to you. Suffering the death of someone close to you is difficult and picking up the pieces as you said is hard. Instead of thinking in terms of losing someone I like to think of it rather in terms of a temporary separation of relationship. The person isn't really lost, just in another state of existence and in another realm. As Christians it is our belief and hope that we will be reunited with those we love who have gone on ahead of us to the other side. We look forward with anticipation for the day when we will embrace them once again and be united for all of eternity. I appreciate the fact that you mention God has proven God self to be faithful. Hold on to that truth and that hope; it is your rock in times of trouble.

Know that the many different emotions you are experiencing are valid. They will come and go and this is normal. We never really fully get over the hurt but we can move forward in the living of our lives; this is what your loved one would want. If you are having an especially difficult time moving forward it would be wise to speak with someone about that. A good grief counselor can help you sort through your feelings and sorrow so that you can deal with them in a healthy way. It isn't good for us to stuff these emotions inside and ignore their reality. Maybe a grief support group would be helpful for you to get them out. The main thing is not to isolate yourself from others but talk about what you are experiencing with those who can help you work through your sorrow and pain.

Life is full of surprises, detours, unexpected turns and challenges; some good some not so good. Our best laid plans may have to be rebooted from time to time. Know this - God the Father, Christ the Son and the Holy Spirit are with you and will bring healing and peace to your heart and mind as you surrender yourself to their presence in your life. That is my prayer for you.